Why is it the norm to get your daughters married?

I was watching the recent Bridgerton series, and the effort and turmoil that Mama had to go through to get her kids married is praiseworthy.

But is it really needed? Why can't one stay in their own house on a shelf, love Eloise, on taking this stand?

But yet again, having seen Benedict pursue everything in life, be it arts, men or women, he still finds his life's purpose in finding the owner of the one silver glove. So maybe even if you have experienced everything in life, you still need to live it with that one person.

That is the whole plot of the series: finding the right soulmate.

And that ends there; we do not know what happens next. Even in all the romantic movies or romcoms, the film ends with a happy ending: the lovers uniting, finding each other in a long embrace, or starting a life together. We do not know what kind of life they are living, or what the actual emotional state of mind of these women is after their marriage phase. Well i suppose the movie wouldn't be a hit if they showed the "After marriage phase".

Everyone just wants to see the love, courting, intimacy, poetic dialogues, gifts, abrupt meetings, hidden smooches, glances and everything nice. Most often, these end with marriage, and they become completely different people with different interests.

The couple starts to vex each other, tries to avoid each other's gaze when in a room, and you just wish to burn them or hope the world will consume them (if you know, you know).

If you watch movies like Tully, The Lost Daughter, Revolutionary Road, Motherhood, We Need To Talk About Kevin, etc., you will know what actually happens once the glory and love phase is done and dusted. And when LIFE ACTUALLY STARTS, it is no longer a dreamland or fantasy, it is REALLY REAL! The postpartum, exhaustion, depression, isolation, fear, stress, anxiety, overwhelming, resentment, lack of motivation, no personal identity, bad parenting....the list is just endless i tell you... You are new to it all, you do not know how to handle it, and you just explode! The case is true for a majority of moms after their marriage. But only once you set foot in it, do you realise that its quick sand.

This is just a reminder, rather a caution to all women out there, be careful of your actions and decisions, for they shape your life. Your happiness matters in the end. And getting married is not always a solution to your problem; it comes with a lot of ups and downs. There are many things you can achieve and do in life other than get married. Do not let anyone push you or force you into getting married, either; that is the worst!

Just a heads up, ladies!

The grass is not always greener on the other side.